If you are recently separated or divorced, like me, you may be wondering how to start dating after divorce. I have covered this topic in several posts, but in this one I would like to talk about dating someone similar to yourself, and why that is important in post divorce dating Last night I had a phone call with a guy who asked me for my number after chatting a bit on a dating site. I ... [...]
Post divorce dating is a topic I have a lot of interest in. I have been separated for about a year but every time I have tried to date, I would end up spending the date talking about our divorce or separation. Frequently I would break into tears. Not good! I figured I should be doing this work elsewhere besides on dates. I recently joined a divorce support group that meets at a local church. ... [...]
If you are divorced and not ready to date again, there are a few ways to warm yourself up and get yourself prepared to date when you are finally ready. Before starting to date again after divorce, you can gently dip your toes into the dating world without actually dating just to check all the nobs and switches and get your mind back to a single frame of reference. After being married for 20 years ... [...]
Dating men with money?…bet you think you didn’t have to think about that again for a while! If you are newly separated or divorced after a long marriage, like me, you probably are realizing that money is going to be a much bigger issue now than last time you dated. Middle aged dating is challenging for a lot of reasons, but one big reason is that the ball has moved a lot since you l ... [...]
If you have ever signed up for a dating site, you are probably familiar with online dating scams. Online dating scams are annoying and frightening. They target both men and women, but since I am a woman, I will write about my experience with scammers targeting women. What are online dating scams? Usually they are people from outside the US who create fake free profiles on dating sites. The ... [...]
Dating site photos are SOOO important for middle aged women, especially recent ones that are representative of what you look like. When I first started using dating services after my separation at 49 years of age, I did not have a lot of good photos of myself. Unfortunately, I was the photographer in the family and 99% of all photos in my albums were of my husband and kid. I figured, ... [...]
If you are divorced or separated and middle aged, like me, you may be thinking of trying speed dating to meet new people, but are wondering what to expect when speed dating. I was wondering the same thing when I got separated so I figured the best way to find out was to just do it. I have gone twice now so I can share with you what I experienced. The first time I went, I signed up for an eve ... [...]
If you are separated or recently divorced you may be looking for guidance for dating after a divorce. If you are middle aged and were married a long time you may have forgotten what things were like when you dated last, may have have forgotten courtship rules, and may be wondering how things have changed in the world of dating. I covered these topics in some of my other articles on mi ... [...]
If you have gone through a middle aged divorce and are dating again, you may wonder if there is a book for you. The first book in my middle aged dating divorce process that I read was “He’s History and You’re Not”.This is a great first book for women to read after a middle aged divorce although it gives some hard facts for over 40 women about the ratio of men to ... [...]
How long before I am ready to date again after divorce? That is a good question; one that I have been searching for answers to since the day I separated. If you are middle aged and have been married for a long time this answer may be different than for someone younger. It may be quick for someone who was married a year or so in their 20s and realized it was a mistake and is back in dat ... [...]
I have read that one of the main problems with being a new dater after a divorce is that many of the people who are out there to date, both men and women, only want to do “casual dating”. What is the definition of casual dating you ask? Well unfortunately there is no one agreed upon answer to that. Some people think it means just dating but not living together or getting ... [...]
With the ever increasing popularity of online dating sites, prolonged youthfulness, and rising divorce rates, general casual dating is no longer a taboo for middle-aged women. Gone are those days when spinsterdom and affairs with “old maids” were shunned; now dating well after youth has become quite the norm. However, with no dating tricks up your sleeve, it’s likely that you&rs ... [...]
Poly dating has lots of sides to it. Today I would like to talk about the pros and cons of being the polyamorous secondary partner. I am not the world’s expert on poly dating, but I do have some experience in polyamorous dating, knowledge on the subject, have gone to some poly discussion groups and have friends who are openly poly. Polyamorous Dating I have been both the primary and ... [...]
As part of my research into all kinds of dating, I started reading the Bible of Polyamory “The Ethical Slut” a few months ago because I was interested in polyamorous dating from an academic perspective. If you are interested in polyamorous dating I highly recommend this book.I had heard about this book while reading personal ads for fun on Craigslist when I was married, and I ima ... [...]
During my recent time as a middle aged dater, I came up with a “poly scale”, like a Kinsey scale for hetero and homosexuality, that helps you communicate and think about how polyamorous you are. I studied and experimented with polyamory for about two years. I went to therapy to examine the gap between my intellectual acceptance of polyamory and my emotional aversion to it. I determine ... [...]
Almost every man will suffer from sexual performance anxiety at one time in his life regardless of his age. In most situations this is more of a physiological than a physical problem and it arises when men anticipate something going wrong during sex. Just like anyone else, men have their own insecurities and fears that may make them feel inadequate and it does not help that for them sex is usuall ... [...]